Jul 11, 2007

Blogging Break

Mr Wang shall be taking a blogging break for some time, to focus on some other pursuits. In the meantime, if you have questions about TAR, feel free to post them in the comment section below. Mr Wang welcomes TAR questions from the skeptical, the curious and the budding practitioners alike.


Anonymous said...

Mr Wang,

You mentioned previously lying to your children in kindergarten that they were the smartest kids there thereby raising their self-esteem and TAR - they became smart.

Is lying and raising their self-esteem falsely a good thing? Never mind TAR as we still have no REAL evidence that it works. Or are there unintended, negative consequences that will prove harmful in the long run?

Excerpts from that article Too Much Self-Esteem Can Be Bad for Your Child

American schools stress self-esteem as the stepping stone to academic achievement. But students from Asian cultures, which place little stock in self-esteem, seem to do better than their American counterparts in school.

"A quarter of a century later, a comprehensive new study released last February from San Diego State University maintains that too much self-regard has resulted in college campuses full of narcissists. In 2006, researchers said, two-thirds of the students had above-average scores on the Narcissistic Personality Inventory evaluation, 30 percent more than when the test was first administered in 1982.

Researchers like San Diego State University professor Jean Twenge worried that narcissists "are more likely to have romantic relationships that are short-lived, at risk for infidelity, lack emotional warmth, and to exhibit game-playing, dishonesty, and over-controlling and violent behaviors."

Like the old adage goes: "Be very careful what you wish for, you might just get it."


KS said...


I noticed the following:
in this post, you wrote that

There are two things which your unconscious mind is not very good at. Firstly, it does not understand time very well. It cannot really tell the difference between past, present and future. It tends to take every statement as being a description of the present, not the past nor the future

and yet in this post, you wrote that

8. Wherever possible, state your goal in the present tense, as if it had already happened. For instance, do not write: "My goal is to earn $120,000 a year, by next year". Simply write "I am earning $120,000 a year" as if this goal had already come true. By tricking your unconscious mind in this way, you will cause your reality to bend more rapidly to make your false, unconscious belief true.

Is there something contradictory?

Furthermore, you added that (I cant find this article, but I am sure that you wrote it)

you once tried out this TAR experiment by writing down explicitly by which particular date you achieved certain goals. And because you made it so inambiguous about the date, you proved to yourself it worked.

So should we still write goals (targets?) in future tense or not?

have a nice day!

Jiny Hong said...

I think the locus of control is a better predictor of success than self esteem alone.

Along the same lines, truly successful people work to achieve their own goals and don't really care what others think about them.

Johnny Malkavian said...

If you could be anything, what would you be?h

Anonymous said...

Could someone be so kind and explain what TAR stands for?

goodydaze said...

Mr Wang I tried TAR before however most of the things I wrote down does not seem to be working. I wonder if I am doing something wrong?

Lately, while I have been writing it down my mind keeps wandering and I tend to rush with my writing nowadays.

The Secret said...

hi ks, I don't see any contradiction between the 2 points you raised?

Anonymous said...

Mr Wang,

Reading your posts reminds me of a sentence in the book 'The Alchemist' by Paulo Coelho. It says 'When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.'

I guess there should be some truth to it if so many people believe in it. So, I shall start trying, by writing down my goals.

Thanks for all the posts!

ted said...

Hi Mr Wang and all others, check this case out:


Seems like a candidate for Xtreme-Mindhacking. Keke, enjoy.

KS said...

hi the secret,

I am not sure if you can see what I am trying to draw at.

Hopefully, Mr Wang will get back to us once he finished his blogging break.

If the unconscious mind is not able to tell the difference between past, present and future and tends to take every statement as being a description of the present as stated by Mr Wang, then there is no need to "trick your mind" by stating everything in the present as much as possible again stated by Mr Wang.

The bold emphasis is mine.

I hope Mr Wang can clarify this with us.

Anyway, I am trying TAR out in the persent tense.